"Sorry Brothers The Milk Ain't
Free No More!"
Subtitled
"A Word To My Single Sisters, Don't Settle for Less Than
What Christ Has for You"
I wrote this book from my personal experiences with relationships that I sought to fill the voids in my life. These relationships did not lead to marriage, and they left me disappointed, feeling used, and ashamed. Why? Because I had allowed myself to get involved in yet another relationship that robbed me of my dignity, time, and set me back in my walk with Christ, more than once!
And we all know that time is something that we just can't get back. It waits for no one. While I was on my sin vacation(s), time kept going on. And of course when I came to myself, I realized that was time wasted that I could have been doing what The Lord had called me to do.
Many women give years of their lives in relationships that are not going anywhere. When they finally decide to break it off, they have lost time, money, self respect, their youth, to name a few. Many have had children come out of the relationship, which is fine because children are a gift from God, but now where is their father? What kind of life will they have if their father isn't in the picture full time? Yet another life is affected by our decision to be in a relationship that does not lead to marriage.
Now, mind you I am writing to those women who desire to be married, not to those that don't. Also I wrote this book for my Christian Sisters, although any woman can read and learn something from it. If you are not a Christian you may not understand the importance of saving yourself for marriage and letting Christ fill that emptiness in your life. But... you've come to the right place to learn about Him... just keep reading this blog.
I wrote this book to encourage women to seek after Christ and what He has for them, and not after relationships with non committing men. Many men want what he can get from a woman, not a relationship, let alone marriage. If you are willing to give it to him, he'll take it, whatever he can get. And can you really blame him? Some women give men sex, money, clothes, jewelry, a place to live, a car to drive, did I say money? credit, children, cooking, cleaning, washing his laundry, etc, etc. without ever being married to them. We make it too easy for them...why should they want to be married if they are getting the benefits of marriage without being married? Translated... "why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?"
On another note, we older women need to be role models for our daughers and the younger women coming along.
And that's the Bible...
But you don't have to be into the Bible to be a role model. Many daughters are seeing their mothers in many relationships, and that's not a good influence on them. If they see their mothers doing it, what's keeping them from doing the same thing?
And God forbid if they are looking at the entertainers as role models. With most of them marrying, divorcing, and marrying again and jumping into and out of relationships, there are very few positive role models for them.
Today more than ever before, there is a need for our teens and young women to have a positive self esteem and self image of themselves. They also need to have enough self respect and not get involved in relationships at an early age. These days (and I suppose it was going on when I was younger) these young people get involved sexually but they don't call it sex! Now I define sex as ANYTHING that a male and female do that should be done within the confines of marriage.
Many young people today do all kinds of things, and some feel as long as they are not 'doing it' that they are "not having sex"! Mind you, since they don't call it "having sex" then they don't feel it's wrong. Further they may be "not having sex" with more than one person; and some are 'doing it, with more than one person. That's not good and the statistics reflect just that:
What they call it today? "Friends with benefits"? Now looking at these statistics, what kinds of benefits are these? And many of these diseases are now resistant to antibiotics; and we know that AIDS is incurable...
So why would anyone want to risk their health or even their life being a "friend with benefits" or being in a relationship outside of marriage? It's not worth it.
Anyway... I kind of got away from my original thoughts....
Sisters, please feel free to share with other women about your relationship experiences, good, bad, and ugly and how you overcame them. I want this to be a blog where women can be encouraged and be an encouragement to each other.
If you are interested in ordering a copy of my book, please feel free to email me at
TheMilkAintFree@hotmail.com, and I can give you ordering information.
I also would be glad to speak at your Women's events, and you can contact me via the same email.
Look for me on blog talk radio on May 22nd. More info to follow.
Check out my group with the same name on Facebook
until my next post..
Take care and
God Bless
God Bless
DeBorah
